Sexual Obsession (Addiction) Causes and Solutions
Most living beings use sex only to reproduce their species but humans may be the only mammal who uses sex for pleasure and fun. Both modern men and women think of sex as a magic potion that cures all wrongs. This way of thinking makes it hard to fix the ups and downs in human relations. As good as we may think sex is the time is ripe for some harsh truths for our sexually open world. Here you will find answers to some sexual obsession topics which are often ignored by boys and girls of all ages.
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Sexual Obsession Roots
Since the dawn of visual media such as TV and movie films our kids are shown more and more sex scenes daily. We seem to have a huge need for books and other print media that glorify sex as well. Our media makes sex appear as some form of God given gift to man. As you can see sexual obsession gets too much support from print and visual media. To make things worse the rise of the internet lets kids of any age see sexual content without proof of age.
Sexual hype by the media has caught the attention of our young and old alike and has turned our social values and religious beliefs upside down. Girls seem to no longer care to be virgins when they marry. Boys tend to think they are less men if they fail to have sex at a young age. Boys also try to cheer girls to join them on their sex rides. The result is a great amount of sexual obsession (sexual addiction) that yields awful results for men and women in their day to day relations.
Men Sexual Obsession Problems
Some men are just born wild and think that they should be able to bed any woman they like. Other men are just too easily swayed by any woman who smiles at them. But until they fall prey to sexual obsession most men are quite normal. Often times men begin to lose interest in their sex partners as they age. Some of the things that influence this behavior in men are a decrease in penis size, a loose vagina, and impotence.
As men get older they have lesser levels of testosterone in their systems. This hormone is needed for the correct operation of body muscles in men to include the muscles on the penis. Lower levels of this hormone cause the size of the penis to get smaller as men age. After men pass the age of 25 their testosterone production starts to decline at a rate of 2% per year. Doctors can suggest the right drugs to increase the levels of this hormone for men who suffer from this condition. You may ask: What does the size of the penis have to do with sexual obsession?
As we said in the last paragraph as a man gets older the size of his penis gets smaller. On the other hand, as a woman ages the size of her vagina suffers an opposite effect and gets loose and large with age. So you have the problem of a smaller penis and a larger vagina which makes it hard for the man to feel stimulated by the woman during the act of sex. This is a common problem for women over the age of 30 and is one of the factors that drive men to seek younger women.
Nothing scares a man more that the thought of being impotent. This may account for the success of pills to make men feel manly like Levitra, Viagra, and Cialis. When a man suffers from impotence his penis remains soft or goes soft before the end of the sex act. This condition in men is referred to as erectile dysfunction or ED.
Young Women Problems
One common problem brought about by sexual obsession in our society is the number of unwed mothers. Many girls get pregnant while they are too young and thus do not get a chance to go through a normal child to adult transition. And because they have already shown lack of control over their own sexual needs men may forever shy away from them and not trust them for the role of sexual mates. Statistics show that 88% of unwed mothers will be doomed to spend the rest of their lives without a man to help them in good and bad times. These women may be forced to spend the rest of their lives in same sex relations so as to enjoy some sort of sexual contact.
Also, in their attempt to satisfy their own needs for sex these single mothers upset the peace of their children when they bring home men who may be complete strangers to the kids. Thus, children are forced to grow up in an unstable setting and may grow up to be weak, unstable, and insecure adults. Also, those kids may go through life with a sense of shame toward their sole parent. As you can see, even a small amount of sexual obsession can have a huge impact in the lives of those involved and the ones they love.
Adult Women Problems
Sexual obsession and disregard for their own worth as humans makes the world more difficult for modern women who see more problems today than in times past. All through history men have left women for younger ones, but right now the problem is at an all time high. One common sentence among modern women is: “My man left me for a younger woman.” This social trend is the reason why over 30% of homes in the United States and more than 20% in Canada are headed by single parents.
Why do men leave the women they wanted to spend their entire lives with for younger ones? Like women, men love sex too. For the first few years of marriage things are great between them. They establish a family and begin to raise children. But as they both start to age problems not foreseen by either partner start to drive them apart as you will see here.
Why Men Seek Younger Women
Either by natural design or bad luck for women the most private and sacred part of their body has a very short firm life span. Once a woman falls prey to sexual obsession and starts to have sex her vagina begins to expand. If not cared for as time passes it becomes too loose. The more it expands the less its ability to satisfy the needs of men. This is made even worse by the fact that babies pass through it at child birth. To restore balance women must go back to the basics they have come to ignore over the years in regards to caring for their own body and for the men in their life.
Modern women appear to have lost some of their innate skills to satisfy men. They are more set to satisfy their own needs than the needs of their sex partners. Here is an example of this sexual obsession rational in action: As I worked on my laptop one day I heard my daughter tell my wife why a 19 year old girl she knew at work did not want her boyfriend any more. “He doesn’t fill me”, the girl told my daughter was the reason why she did not want to stay with the guy. And right there you can see the problem faced by modern young women. They reach the loose vagina stage at an early age and don’t realize the type of harm they caused to their own body.
In their attempt to be filled they allow ever larger objects into their body. The problem is that with every new insertion the vagina expands at an alarming rate and becomes more and more flaccid. And thus, this infamous cycle repeats itself making her vagina looser with each new attempt to feel the filled. In her state of sexual obsession she may not be aware of the amount of harm she is doing to her vagina walls.
In addition to a loose or flaccid vagina women who in their sexual obsession allow insertion through their anus can become “flaccid bowel” victims. The problem is that the colon was designed to operate in one direction only. The muscles and nerves in it are meant to open and flex to push stool out of the body. When the anus is forced to open in the wrong direction harm to the nerves and muscles that perform those natural functions could take place.
Enough damage can occur to the point where a person cannot retain the stool inside the body because the muscles and anal tissue remain loose at all times. This is a problem that affects mostly men who have sex with other men. But this can also affect women who allow their sexual obsession to get the best of them and permit anal insertion.
Sexual Obsession Effects on Men
A man likes sex just as much as the woman and part of the love he first felt for her was because she made him feel fulfilled. However, a man knows real soon when the woman does not satisfy his needs any more. As the vagina becomes too loose the man will not be able to feel it during sex.
Some women are not aware that the problem resides in their own body and will try to deflect the problem as being caused by a small penis on their men. But if not corrected the loose vagina will require a larger item to fill the void each time until they figure out the real cause of the problem and learn how to make it tight.
Women who realize the fact that they have a flaccid vagina problem may in their sexual obsession be tempted to use tricks to make the man feel her. Such tricks may calm a man’s needs for a while but no fake can take the place the real thing. Also, it will be hard to conceal it for a long period of time. The loose vagina will just keep on getting worse if she does not solve the root cause of the problem.
Men forever recall what it feels like to enter a firm woman. They make some concessions for the fact that women give birth to babies but they also expect to feel the woman when they join in sex. For some men the lack of sensation may be too hard to bear. They become victims of sexual obsession and start to look for younger women who may still have firm inner walls to solve their sexual obsession needs.
What Can Women Do?
Here are some things you can do to keep your vagina muscles fit and your man pleased as you age. For young girls the easiest thing is to avoid sex until they are older so they don’t get the loose vagina syndrome too soon in their lives. For those of you who are a bit older simply try to reduce the size of the items you accept into your body and exercise the vagina muscles. Women who are married to big men will have no choice and their best option is to exercise their vaginal muscles to keep them firm.
Exercise is good regardless of your age and stage of your vaginal walls. By making the vaginal muscles firm you can disguise the fact that the tissue has become loose. I saw an article about a stripper lady in Washington, DC who could hold and puff a cigarette using her vaginal muscles. The fact that she could do this proves that those muscles can be trained and made to be firm.
There are also creams that can help make your vagina tight which you can ask your doctor about. When combined with exercise the creams may help you get faster results. A surgery option called “Vaginaplasty”, or vaginal plastic surgery, can be done to tighten the vaginal muscles but is costly and not easily open to all. Also, it is possible that after the surgery your muscles may become loose once again. Thus, we come back to exercise as being the best solution, maybe even better than surgery. To exercise these muscles squeeze them tight for about 10 seconds at a time four or five times per day. Also, leg, lower belly, and buttocks exercises will help.
Loose vagina muscles can also foster Urinary Incontinence which is a condition where a person cannot control her bladder and drips urine when she coughs or stresses her body in any way. This is a common problem and medical research shows that over 50% of older women suffer some form of urine drip. Also, research figures show that between 12 and 15 million American women of all ages suffer from this condition.
Reducing Urinary Incontinence
To help reduce Incontinence you can exercise the muscles around the urethra. Simply squeeze the muscles you use to control urine flow and hold the squeeze for about 10 seconds at a time. Do this exercise at least four or five times a day.
There is also a device called Pessary that your doctor can prescribe for you. The Pessary is inserted into the vagina to help reduce or stop urine leakage. Women can wear it all the time or as needed.
The health threats we speak of here are real and affect people of all ages in our society. Watch out for signs of sexual obsession (also called sexual addiction) and use the tips provided in this article to help you enjoy long lasting sexual health. Keep your body fit and it will return the favor and make you happy. The results will be a happier sexual life for you and your sex partner.
In addition to not being able to satisfy a man during sex one of the worse problems that could result when the woman’s pelvic muscles become too loose is loss of bladder control or Urinary Incontinence as she gets older. It is sort of like the flaccid bowel problem some gay men suffer when their anal muscles remain relaxed all the time and they cannot control the flow of stool out of their body. Fortunately for them medicine came up with a device that the man can insert and remove as needed to control stool flow.
For women a device called Pessary can be used but in some cases surgery is the only way to solve the problem. So the best solution is to keep the body fit to prevent or reduce sexual inadequacy as well as urine leaks.
Men also suffer from flaccid conditions in the form of erectile dysfunction, but the condition is easy to solve once the man figures out how to increase blood flow to his groin either using pills, herbs, or just plain exercise. For more information on problems in men visit the Erection Problems website.
Note: Some problems men and women experience such as incontinence may have nothing to do with sexual obsession at all. They could be the result of other factors such as weight gain, pregnancy, child birth, and even body injuries. So, as with every major health issue talk to your doctor and make sure you get good answers to your health questions.
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